Saturday, May 16, 2009

How Young Is Too Young to Be a Successful Housewife

When my husband and I got married almost 4 years ago, I was 20 years old. I had met him when I just turned 19. Right away I fell in love with him; but it wasn’t your standard “boyfriend & girlfriend” type love, but something much more. When we announced our engagement 3 months after we met, we ran into a lot of ‘are you ready for marriage”, or “your too young”, or “live life first, then in a few years, if your ready".. I started to think if getting and staying marriaged was even a good thing anymore.

Yes, I was young and still am (I’m 24 now), but yet GOD had something else in store for us. Its funny how almost every single person in the bible that was used by GOD had a situation/appearance/background/etc, that wasn’t accepted by “society” standards. I mean, can you imagine the looks and “talking behind the back” remarks Moses must’ve received when he told his family that GOD spoke to him through a burning bush. People’s first thoughts were probably, “Moses is nuts!”

I have to admit, my perception of Housewives was quite different growing up and entering college. As a young child, I can specifically remember being told to study hard so I can go to college and get a good job. I wasn’t taught to keep a house, cook, how to dress like a lady, or even prepare myself for a husband. Many of the women in my family had terrible relationships with men and I was taught that I didn’t need a man in my life. All a man did was become a weight, that had no job, dozens of children, no education, etc. I didn’t even want to get married because of what I experienced growing up; and if I did get married, it would be when I was older, much older…like 40!LOL

And kids, don’t even get me started on kids. I didn’t want any children. Nope, none whatsoever! Many girls my age growing up, had kids and it was ALWAYS out of wedlock, with some guy they knew for a few months. Here they are stuck with a baby, still in high school, no job, or stable future. I did not want that to be me. That was something else that I was taught growing up……..STAY AWAY FROM BOYS! BOYS ARE BAD!!! BOYS ONLY WANT ONE THING FROM YOU!!

Well when I met my husband we was 23, gone to college, VERY smart, had a career, active in his church, dressed VERY professional (even on our first date), and extremely handsome. His background was MUCH different than mine. His mom stayed home with him and his sibling when they were younger. She taught them how to care for a home, cook, manage money, dress, and behave. I had to learn ALL this, especially when we started talking about marriage. I realized that I would feel VERY bad, even awful, if I didn’t know how to cook my husband a meal, and he’d have to go to someone else or stop off at a fast food place.

When we both decided I would stay home and be a housewife, it was a lot to take in at first. Here I am 22, college graduate at home doing nothing. We’ll GOD sure did change my perception. I soon realized that my job in the home is so important. It’s like running a company. There’s cooking, cleaning, budgeting, organizing, planning, and so much more. My cousin said that even though the man is the head of the family, the wife is the neck! LOL. That means the head needs the neck to get everything in the body function properly. It guides the head in each direction...LOL

Today, I can say that I LOVE taking care of my family. Yes, there are times when I get into a “rut” and yearn for something a little different. But all in all, I’m happy and blessed. Since I began to stay home, the Lord gave my husband a new job, 2 raises, and he just got a promotion last week…in THIS economy! When I let go of my wants and desires, GOD will step in and pour his blessings on you!


Jenny said...

I loved this post! I was 21 when I got married in 2001 and have been a housewife since.

Well Watered Woman said...

This was so good. Although I don't know you I am Godly proud of you for not listening to people and listening to God.

jskell911 said...

What a wonderful post! I do not believe that age, so much as attitude, has anything to do with your ability to be a wonderful homemaker. And it sounds like you have the attitude down pat! Great job.

Erica said...

Great post congrats on hubby's promotion. So what did you study in school?? I look forward to following your blog. :)

Kela said...

You basically told my story!!

I met hubby in high school. We seemed to have more against us because of our race difference.
We got married two years after graduating. We started college, but decided to start a family instead.
My upbringing was a lot like yours. My husband's was a lot like your husbands.
15 years and 6 children later, we are more than thriving.
God abundantly bless you and your marriage!